Online Dating Tip The Online Dating Tip Guide
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    October 12th, 2012SusanUncategorized

    One of the best online dating tips of all time is this: don’t trust pictures. Sure, pictures are said to be worth 1000 words, but when people are trying to impress you and make you want to go out with them, they are going to use pictures that show them in their best light possible. This is not always an honest interpretation of the person. Some may even use a photo-shopped picture, or a picture that is so outdated that the person in their photo looks more like their daughter than the person that you will actually meet in person.

    If you take nothing else away from this post on not always believing what you see in pictures, then remember this: the worst picture in her portfolio is probably a better representation of her than the best picture. When dealing with the anonymity of cyber space, many people will hide behind their keyboard and make themselves look more attractive than they are. This is because we live in a world where looking good is more important than anything else. If you are shallow and looks is all that you’re after, then you have some real problems to begin with. Nonetheless, you don’t want to meet up with someone when you are expecting one thing and then get another.

    The pictures in a potential date’s profile can also help to back up what she is saying about her interests and her life. For example, if she says that she loves animals but there is not a single furry critter to be found in her 100 different pics online, she probably really doesn’t like animals at all. Some people just claim to be animal lovers in order to make themselves appear more approachable. Again, proceed with caution when dating online, and don’t put too much stock in anyone’s pictures.

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    April 24th, 2012SusanUncategorized

    Many daters fall into the trap of pretending to be someone that they are not. But eventually, if you are pretending to be someone else, you’re going to get “found out” — unless, of course, you are planning to keep your cyber romance in cyber space.

    That’s not really fair, though, is it? If people meet you online, most of them are planning on meeting you in person. You don’t want to surprise them, right? And if you don’t have any intentions of ever meeting them face-to-face, then the honest thing to do is to tell them so – from the get-go.

    Why is it important not to pretend to be someone else? Think about how you would feel if you were talking to someone and then find out (upon meeting them in person) that they really are a lot older, grayer, fatter, slouchier, balder, than they look in their picture.

    That’s a common way that people innocently deceive one another when they are dating online. This is not usually a malicious thing. The person who posts the picture of themselves from “way back then” may still view themselves as looking the same. Or perhaps that picture is the picture they are most confident with.

    However, why not post a picture of yourself that is current and taken within the past few months? You don’t have anything to hide, especially since you want to be loved for who you are now, not for the super-star you used to be.

    Besides, won’t you feel silly to meet someone face-to-face who is expecting you to look like that jock you were in high school only to realize that you look more like that kid’s dad?

    Bottom line, be who you are online and you’ll meet someone who will love you for you – the current you. Be honest about your job, your income (if you disclose it) and the home you live in, the car you drive, whether or not you have kids.

    All of these things shape you into the person that you are today, and that’s the person who is looking for a date, right? Only with honesty can you build an online dating profile that sells the real you.

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