Online Dating Tip The Online Dating Tip Guide
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    June 13th, 2012SusanUncategorized

    Do you trip over your tongue when talking to members of the opposite sex? That’s one of the biggest benefits of online dating – you get to talk with your keyboard initially, giving you more time to get comfortable with the other person before you meet.  But what should you say?

    Many people who are new to online dating look for online dating tips to help them make that first initial contact with potential mates.  First impressions count, and it only makes sense that people want to make a good first impression on their potential future Mrs. Or Mr. Right.

    The first rule of communicating with someone that you want to go out with is to show them that you are, in fact, literate.  Bad spelling, bad grammar, and writing in terms like “u” for “you” or “wat” for “what”, is too elementary for a serious would-be date.  An article on the OK Cupid (one of the biggest online dating sites) states that the top WORST words to use in an initial message are, in order of bad to worse – ur, r, u, ya, cant, hit, realy, luv, wat.  None of them are actually words.  But what they don’t say can really mean a lot.  “Ha ha” and “LOL”, are both okay.

    Be careful when you are initially contacting someone to not compliment them physically.  Words like sexy and beautiful are a bit strong.  Sure, people like to be complimented, but they sound a bit like a pickup like.

    The way that you greet the other party is also important.  The least appropriate ways to say hello (or at least the ones that get fewer positive responses in online dating forums) are the traditional “hi” and “hello” and “hey”.  An unusual greeting gets more responses, including “how’s it going”, or “howdy”, or “what’s up”.

    And a word to the wise, keep your religion under your hat unless of course, you don’t have one.  Mentioning God was a big no-no among OK Cupid chatters, although the word “atheist” seemed to get good responses. Who knew, huh?

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    June 5th, 2012SusanUncategorized

    Online dating tips abound, but this may well be one of the best.  Be positive.

    Let’s face it, nobody likes a whiner. And nobody wants to date a whiner.  That being said, why is it that some folks insist on putting a negative spin on their dating profiles.  Just like no one will hire the cleaning lady who won’t do windows, no one wants to take someone on a date who is putting off negative feelings. At least not anyone normal, that is!  Unless you are “emo” and looking for someone to share your dark thoughts, it is best that you keep negativity out of your online dating profile.

    Some people don’t even realize that they are being negative when they really are.  Take this real-world example of a guy on an online dating website, listing what he is “looking for”:

    Professional guy looking for an attractive, affectionate, sane and emancipated sexy woman.

    First off, it seems that this guy is mainly looking for someone who looks good.  After all, he mentions twice in just one sentence that his ideal mate would be attractive AND sexy.  Most women are put off by a guy who is so demanding of a sexy partner.  Is he trying to cover up his own lack of sex appeal by only dating sexy, attractive women? What about women who consider themselves pretty but not sexy? They may be too intimidated to respond.  And what about looking for someone who is “sane”?  Or “emancipated”?  Who would consider themselves insane, anyway?

    Negatives can also be more obvious.  For example, a person who insults their own looks, skills, intelligence…it happens in online profiles. And while some people jokingly call themselves a dumb blonde, it just makes other people wonder if they really are – dumb!

    Desperation is also a negative in an online profile.  No one wants to date a desperate person, like the guy who put this in his profile:

    If you are interested in meeting me, please let me know. I have contacts hundreds of women on here, and no one is interested in hooking up.  I’ve been turned down in every language, for many reasons.

    Sound like a guy you want to meet? No, it doesn’t, right? No one wants someone that no one else will consider. While many people may feel empathy for the guy, no one feels bad enough for him to send him a wink or strike up a relationship.  Some guys just don’t get it. The same is true of some women.

    Suffice it to say that staying positive and upbeat about your lack of a date is important, or better yet, don’t mention it at all.  Sometimes NOT airing one’s dirty laundry is important.

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    May 10th, 2012SusanUncategorized

    Online dating has come a long way since the days when it was seen as an act of desperation to build an online dating profile. Today, it is seen as a socially acceptable and even a socially applaudable way to find and make a date. Nearly anyone can provide an example of a friend or relative who had a successful hookup with someone that they met online.

    Make the Plunge

    Choose a site that a friend recommends or that you have read good reviews about. If you want to meet a wide assortment of people, think about joining a big, well-known website, like Match.Com. If you are looking for only a specific type of date, look for a site that caters to a specific need. For example, if you want to meet an Asian girl/guy, look for sites that specifically feature this ethnicity.

    Take a Recent Photograph

    Whether guy or gal, you need to have a recent photo posted on your online profile so that you can attract potential dates. Make sure that the picture is one that was taken in the last six months, or better yet, take one with your web cam.

    Make Contact

    Once you have registered for dating online, you can then read others’ profiles and send out some emails. Do not be vulgar to anyone, especially if you’ve just met, as this is a huge turn-off to both guys and gals.

    The next step is to arrange a date in person. Be sure that you meet in a safe place where there are other people. While online dating is safe, there is always a weirdo or two in the mix, so until you are comfortable with the people you meet, you should not be alone with them.