Online Dating Tip The Online Dating Tip Guide
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    April 24th, 2012SusanUncategorized

    Many daters fall into the trap of pretending to be someone that they are not. But eventually, if you are pretending to be someone else, you’re going to get “found out” — unless, of course, you are planning to keep your cyber romance in cyber space.

    That’s not really fair, though, is it? If people meet you online, most of them are planning on meeting you in person. You don’t want to surprise them, right? And if you don’t have any intentions of ever meeting them face-to-face, then the honest thing to do is to tell them so – from the get-go.

    Why is it important not to pretend to be someone else? Think about how you would feel if you were talking to someone and then find out (upon meeting them in person) that they really are a lot older, grayer, fatter, slouchier, balder, than they look in their picture.

    That’s a common way that people innocently deceive one another when they are dating online. This is not usually a malicious thing. The person who posts the picture of themselves from “way back then” may still view themselves as looking the same. Or perhaps that picture is the picture they are most confident with.

    However, why not post a picture of yourself that is current and taken within the past few months? You don’t have anything to hide, especially since you want to be loved for who you are now, not for the super-star you used to be.

    Besides, won’t you feel silly to meet someone face-to-face who is expecting you to look like that jock you were in high school only to realize that you look more like that kid’s dad?

    Bottom line, be who you are online and you’ll meet someone who will love you for you – the current you. Be honest about your job, your income (if you disclose it) and the home you live in, the car you drive, whether or not you have kids.

    All of these things shape you into the person that you are today, and that’s the person who is looking for a date, right? Only with honesty can you build an online dating profile that sells the real you.

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